What would it take for your dreams of that happy, cooperative family to show up? What if your children are a reflection of you? Would that please you or not? And what if you are a mirror image of your parents and they of their parents and so on down the hereditary path?
Yes, you may all physically resemble each other. However, that is not the position in this article. The above questions pertain to your belief system. What is it that you are passing on to your off spring simply by being in their presence?
Scientists have proven that we are composed of energy, that we are energetic beings and that energy has vibration. When one is miserable, a specific energy is vibrated. It is very different from the happy person and his/her higher vibration. There is no right or wrong about either energy, each simply is a choice.
Mothers, think back, if you choose, to your pregnancy. What was going on in your life, your marriage or non-marriage? What were your prevalent emotions? Are you aware your unborn child felt those energies as his/her own and came into this world with those feelings thinking they belonged to him/her?
As you are raising your children, how did you treat yourself? Have you allowed time for you to embrace the things you enjoy so you feel fulfilled? Or do you resent parenthood and all its obligations? Please remember - you can't give what you do not have. So whatever you desire your children to have or be, you better get it so you can model it for them! The ways you are acting replicate your beliefs, consciously and unconsciously. Can you see, hear and feel how your children are mimicking those beliefs and actions?
Do your children often fight with each other? And do you and your husband or other significant have frequent disputes? Could your children's struggles possibly be reflecting yours? Do you continually complain about not being able to afford this and that? Might you be passing on that "lack belief" to your children as their legacy?
And dads, what are your children learning from you? Are you willing to listen to their needs, give them your full attention and validate them? Or do you return home from work exhausted, crabby, needing a drink or perhaps, wanting time for TV sedation?
Questioning helps us open up to multiple possibilities. When we think we have all our answers, however, we tend to stop the flow of infinite probabilities.
If you desire change in your children, modify those behaviors in yourself and be prepared to be delighted with your children's new behaviors. What would it take for you to remind yourself about your own magnificence and act it out for your children?
The above examples are not about judging whether you are a good or bad, right or wrong parent, but rather, they simply present a point of view for you to consider if you indeed desire family adjustments. If you don't, congratulations on creating potentials that work for you and your precious family.
What alteration can you now be to revolutionize your family's dynamics? How can it get any easier than that?
An article by Iyude Allbright